…when people (though I’m specifically speaking mostly about gay men) in relationships (especially long-term ones) post things on Facebook/Twitter/Tumblr about guys they think are hot/perfect/wish they could have or make comments of a sexual/longing nature or say things like “my future husband” or “perfection” or whatever. You all know exactly what I’m talking about.
I find it ungrateful and disrespectful and, in almost all cases, totally unnecessary and unreasonable. Even if you have the thoughts (since there seems to be a popular argument that “no matter what, you’re always going to find other people physically attractive” - though that’s another discussion), you’re entirely capable of outwardly censoring yourself in that regard.
I guess sometimes the other partner is “okay with it,” but I still don’t think that’s “okay” if you respect and love the person you’re with. I also personally feel like that attitude continues to fuel the fire behind the idea that gay men aren’t capable of or aren’t by default interested in stable, long-term relationships.